Unfriended

Facebook Profile Picture #5

I'm not a very good facebook friend, nor am I a very interesting facebook friend. (Which is why this is my fifth profile picture in 3 years.) I'm not on facebook a lot, so I don't make a lot of comments to others, and I don't comment a lot about myself. However, this semester I found myself writing extremely long papers that required many breaks, and so I soon found myself frequenting the lives of all of my friends on facebook. There is something hopeful about knowing that even though you may be writing an examination of curriculum today, someone else is happily eating M&M's, watching their favorite T.V. show, or getting married. Soon I began to get sucked into the political, sporty, random, and awkward posts and pictures of friends. During finals week, I found myself writing a lot more and checking the lives of everyone else a lot more. It was during that time, I noticed one of my huge political friends hadn't had a lot to say in a while, which was pretty weird. It was then that I decided to take a look at his profile and see what was going on. That is when I noticed that I no longer had a friend by that name. Slightly stunned, I assumed what any nice friend would assume, he had quit facebook. Now I was about to let it go, but I've always been a curious person, and so just to prove my theory correct I checked on a mutual friend's friend list. And that is where I found him. Shocked, I began to check out other friends and there he was in all of their friend columns. Which made me wonder how we were no longer friends. Had we had a big fight, a misunderstanding, some name calling? Nope, I hadn't talked to him since he asked to be my friend, and we visited like the old friends we were. Which makes me ask the questions, "Who unfriends friends they asked to be friends with? What makes you unfriend a friend?" And the big question, "Are you an unfriender?" (Although, unfriend is not a real word, it just seems to fit.) And so as I write this post, it occurs to me that I may have been unfriended by others who have purposely hit the delete button on my profile picture. However, I guess when I settle down and think a little more rationally, I realize that really anyone who I don't know is gone, and anyone who wants me gone, probably doesn't deserve to be in my friend column anyway.