Unfriended

Facebook Profile Picture #5

I'm not a very good facebook friend, nor am I a very interesting facebook friend. (Which is why this is my fifth profile picture in 3 years.) I'm not on facebook a lot, so I don't make a lot of comments to others, and I don't comment a lot about myself. However, this semester I found myself writing extremely long papers that required many breaks, and so I soon found myself frequenting the lives of all of my friends on facebook. There is something hopeful about knowing that even though you may be writing an examination of curriculum today, someone else is happily eating M&M's, watching their favorite T.V. show, or getting married. Soon I began to get sucked into the political, sporty, random, and awkward posts and pictures of friends. During finals week, I found myself writing a lot more and checking the lives of everyone else a lot more. It was during that time, I noticed one of my huge political friends hadn't had a lot to say in a while, which was pretty weird. It was then that I decided to take a look at his profile and see what was going on. That is when I noticed that I no longer had a friend by that name. Slightly stunned, I assumed what any nice friend would assume, he had quit facebook. Now I was about to let it go, but I've always been a curious person, and so just to prove my theory correct I checked on a mutual friend's friend list. And that is where I found him. Shocked, I began to check out other friends and there he was in all of their friend columns. Which made me wonder how we were no longer friends. Had we had a big fight, a misunderstanding, some name calling? Nope, I hadn't talked to him since he asked to be my friend, and we visited like the old friends we were. Which makes me ask the questions, "Who unfriends friends they asked to be friends with? What makes you unfriend a friend?" And the big question, "Are you an unfriender?" (Although, unfriend is not a real word, it just seems to fit.) And so as I write this post, it occurs to me that I may have been unfriended by others who have purposely hit the delete button on my profile picture. However, I guess when I settle down and think a little more rationally, I realize that really anyone who I don't know is gone, and anyone who wants me gone, probably doesn't deserve to be in my friend column anyway.

The Couch Analogy

Analogies are on the end of the year test, so I'm use to helping young people make sense of seemingly baffling comparisons. However, it has been a while since a completely random stranger has tried to give me an analogy to happiness in my life. Which I suppose is the cue for the random furniture owner's couch analogy story:
You see I found myself the proud owner of a beautiful new home. A beautiful new home however, that had no beautiful new couch. (Or other furniture, but this story is about the couch.) I searched high and low, and yet I still couldn't find the couch I wanted. Trying to sell the fun of sitting on the floor to my roommate wasn't working well, and so the pressure was on to either find my perfect couch or pick up a loaner from D.I soon.
The afternoon after I moved in, my parents and I drove off in quest for this couch. We happened upon a new store, which we quickly scoured with no luck, until our eyes lighted on a couch that made both my mother and I say, "Hmmm." (Which was much better than most couches were getting.) Next, we began the intricate couch testing process. We sat, took the pillows to the windows, sat, searched the store for throws and other pillows to bring out different colors on the couch, sat, looked at it from every angle, sat, discussed every selling point and every flaw, and then, of course, we sat. 45 minutes after all of this testing, I took one last picture and told the owner we might be back.
He and my dad who had been visiting like old friends during our couch testing looked at me, "Why wouldn't you want this couch?" I looked up at him, "Well I like this couch, but I don't know if I love this couch, so I want to keep looking." This caused him to smile big and say, "Dear, can I ask you another question?" Well I have dealt with a lot of salesman lately, so I thought I had heard every question. I smiled back, "Sure," Then he began, "Are you married?" Like I said, I "thought" I had heard every question. Not figuring out how couches and marriage correlated, I assumed he had a rich, handsome son he wanted to set me up with because he was so taken with my couch testing skills. I smiled, "No." "Well dear, let me just give you a piece of advice. You see buying a couch is an awful lot like finding a husband. Eventually, you just have to make a choice and choose one. Dear, there is no perfect couch. Just like there is no perfect guy. We are all broken. (Which I really hoped the couch was not.) The trick is to just choose a couch or a guy you like bring him home and break him in." He finished and smiled real big. I wasn't quite sure how to respond to this cheering sales pitch on couches and husbands, so I just stared ahead. My dad, a real big shopper, smiled, "That's right, I like this couch. Let's get it." I looked at them both and smiled, "If I'm buying a couch, I'm buying a couch I really love, so we're going to keep looking."
My dad sighed, and we were off to the next store, a store I had looked in several times. However, today as I was walking over to the tables, I was stopped in my tracks at the sight of the perfect couch, MY PERFECT COUCH. That's right, a couch with the color, texture and style I had envisioned. After cheering out loud, I looked at my mother and smiled. "We have to go back to the other furniture store."My mom looked perplexed. "Why?" "Because, I want to go back to Mr. There is no Perfect Couch/Husband and have a few words with him. (I got up on my soap box.) I'm going to tell him how glad I am that I didn't settle for his okay couch because I found my perfect couch. And I'm going to tell him that sometimes when you're looking for a couch or husband it might just take a little more time, patience, and work." Yeah, I was on a roll. And I may have gone back, except this other store actually had two slightly different styles of my perfect couch. Which caused me to walk back and forth between them for an hour and a half. My mom exhausted exclaimed, "I sure hope you never fall in love with two perfect guys because you'll never be able to choose."
However, I did choose a couch, and I love it. Although, I must admit Mr. Couch Analogy was in part right, it wasn't exactly perfect. That's why I've spent weeks looking for new pillows. And I guess it's true nobody is perfect either, which is why I still smile at nice guy's unfunny jokes because maybe they are the perfect couch, they just need new pillows.

The Clay Aiken Fan Club Reunites

It's true long, long ago my girls and I were shameless Clay Aiken fans. We voted for him every night, hung his picture on our door, (and others' doors), raced to buy his first CD, and swooned at his concert. With a bond like this we knew we would be friends forever. And so, we decided when we turned 30 we would all reunite. We decided our happy reunion would be at the Oprah show in Chicago. Well, we were off by a year, and Oprah didn't comply with tickets. However, our heart was set on Chicago and so off we went.
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Some of you might know that March in Chicago is pretty cold. However, we weren't intimidated, and so we donned our coats, parkas, scarves, gloves, and hats and set out on our adventure.


And here it is. . . . . . beautiful Chicago from Navy Pier. Back in 1871, the great fire of Chicago burned almost 1/3 of the city down. However, those Chicagoans are known for their "I will" spirit and immediately began rebuilding. Because of the fire, and the requirement to build from something other than wood, great architects thought outside the box and created these unique and amazing buildings. (I always love a good story about the places I visit.)


See this big smile, it comes from the friendly people of Chicago. It's true, we found nice people at every turn.


We had a big list of tourist sights to see, and one of our favorite picture spots was Cloud Gate or otherwise known as "The Bean."


Ahhhhhhh! So much fun, so many pictures.


We couldn't resist a chance to practice our old dance moves.


We had to get a view of the city from The Sears (Willis) Tower. It was amazing. Those who were more brave also got a view from "The Ledge," glass bottom balconies looking straight down 103 floors to your death. Needless to say, I got woozy just watching people standing on them, and so this was my best picture.

We had to do a little Ferris Bueller pondering at The Art Institute. Loved it!!!


Of course, our trip revolved a lot around eating. Here we are graffiting our names forever into Gino's East's wall. Well at least for a few days until someone else covers them over. However, the memory of the delicious food of Chicago will at least be etched in our minds forever.


While shopping our noses detected the most deliciously, intoxicating smell of caramel popcorn. Garrett's Popcorn became a favorite.


They take their hot dogs very seriously in Chicago and that means no ketchup. However, some people love their ketchup so much, they couldn't be stopped. Although, as you can see, I tried. The traditional Chicago dog has onions, peppers, tomato wedges, mustard, a dill pickle, relish, and celery salt. It was delicious.


What could be more fun then shopping on the Magnificent Mile? Stores at every turn.


You didn't think we would go all the way to Chicago without getting near to Oprah did you? Here we are outside her studio with O hoodies on.


OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!! Can't get enough of the O. (Sitting on her old studio chair, coincidence that we are both wearing pink at this moment? I think not.)


Well just like back in the day, we are still pretty crazy. Yep, we got these shimmering rays of fun to light up our night on the town at the theater, which was fabulous. Our hair had me humming "Me and my friends are Jem girls the whole night." Yep, pretty crazy.


One last picture on the train to the airport and our reunion was over. And although, we haven't listened to Clay for a long time, we had a wonderful time remembering the time when we did and an even more wonderful time creating new memories. Because the best part of this trip wasn't Chicago, it was the Clay Aiken Fan Club reunited again.

The Life of a Celebrity

If you have ever wanted to be a celebrity, I highly recommend becoming a teacher. It is true, suddenly, everyone in the whole community knows you and all about you. (Okay, money wise teaching is nothing like being a celebrity, but fame, oh the fame) Seriously, kids watch you, copy you, and tell their families about everything you do, everything you wear, and everything you say. Trust me I know, I'm a teacher. Even normal, seemingly random things that you don't ever think about, suddenly are the latest rage. For example, just the other day one of my students commented, "Miss R, I just love the way you point." "I'm sorry, what?" I replied. "You know, the way you point. It's so cool." She gushed. Uh. . . .soon after, everyone was practicing the way I point. Craziness, I've even started to have emphathy (well kind of) for the scrutinity of real celebrities. You see last year I moved close by my school. Now not only do kids watch my every move at school, but every store I go to I hear voices calling, "Miss R, Oh my gosh there she is. Look she's buying candy. Look her hair is in pigtails." It's a little much, and so I sometimes find myself driving farther away to avoid run ins. (It's just like those horrible pictures of celebrities in the tabloids. You never know when you are going to see someone you taught.)
Well to add to this craziness, somehow I found myself out with another celebrity, Mr. Favorite Middle School Teacher. It all seemed pretty harmless and fun at first. However, for some reason I didn't realize that this was much bigger than us. Soon, I found my inbox full of emails from former students, I was attacked daily by Middle Schoolers in search of gossip, my boards were filled with mushy notes from former students, and somehow parents and faculty started pulling me aside with sly winks. One parent who had a student in my class this year and last, popped in one afternoon, "Now I really need to talk to you about Paul, but first let's talk about more important things like Mr. Celebrity." "Ummm. . ." I stammered. "Yep, those girls found out where you guys were going for dinner the other night, and they wanted us to drive them there. Of course, I told them they would never get a table and they said, "Oh we don't want a table, we just want to look in through the windows." I stared. "Ummmm. . . . " "Now don't you worry, we didn't take them, but I just wanted to tell you how big this is." "Ummm. . . " And so, suddenly, there was a lot of pressure for this to work out. (Poor celebrites) It continued with girls wanting to become my bridesmaids, and Valentines given to me with our initails on them. Did I mention that somehow this got out of control?
A few weeks later, at parent teacher conferences, just as I was beginning to talk with my next student, a former mother rushed in."Sorry, sorry for interrupting but I just had to come in and say, "Oh my goodness!. I'm so excited for you and Mr. Celebrity. He is so cute, and you are so cute. We just love him, and we just love you. I just wanted to tell you everyone at the middle school and elementary loves you guys and talks of nothing else." Mortified, I smiled and in between her gushing, wondered if I should tell her it was over. But then I looked at the hopeful smile of the kids and the excited parents, and I decided I just couldn't crush their hopes. So, I just continued to smile and nod. I decided I'd just let myself go off track, and let things simmer down. Perhaps, I could hire a spokesperson to tell everyone like real celebrities do, and while they're at it they could take my freezing cold winter recess duty. Unfortunately, I'm not sure I could find someone who will work for apples, Tootsie Rolls and hand drawn pictures. And so, if you are thinking of becoming a teacher (celebrity) remember you may never be able to shop at the store without looking over your shoulder again, and your life may be the next big story on the students' tabloid page. However, I must admit, it's worth it for those hand drawn pictures, Tootsie Rolls, apples and your crazy fans, the students.

Mistaken Identity

Sometimes I'm mistaken for things I am not. Of course, being short causes me to be mistaken for a kid at school. And for some reason I get mistaken for a store worker all the time, at any store. Somehow I am rummaging around the store, when someone comes up to me and asks me where something is at. I try to help them, but when I'm not positive about where something is they look at me and say, "You don't know? Don't you work here?' I'm not sure how I look like a store worker, but okay, maybe.
However, a little while ago I was truly mistaken for something I'm not. I was talking with a teacher about a book I had just read. We started wrapping up the conversation, and then she exclaimed "Hey, you're an environmentalist, I have just the book for you." I turned around to see who had just come into the room. When I didn't see anyone, I quickly turned back around and smiled. As she continued talking about how beautiful the book was, I wondered how she thought I was an environmentalist. Hmmmm. . . . I mean I try, kind of, um. . .I have cloth grocery bags, I love nature and um. . . hmmm. . . Then I prayed she wouldn't follow me back to class, because a picture of the overflowing trash can with students' papers in my room came to mind. Someone took our recycling bin, and not being an environmentalist, I hadn't replaced it. Then I thought about all of the Arbor Day and Earth Day contests that I never had my students enter. An environmentalist hmmmm?
Now, I would like to say I often hear conservative radio show hosts talk about how teachers are brainwashing children about global warming and save the earth campaigns, but I must say it is the other way around. Just a few weeks ago, my students wrote and gave speeches. They could write on anything they wanted. Usually, I get speeches about sports, fashion, and music. This year over three fourths of the class talked about global warming, saving the earth, saving the polar bears, and helping animals. They made a plea to recycle and save energy, Being a supportive teacher, I decided if it was that important to them I would take their challenge. Not only did I find our class recycling bin, but I also added another one by my desk. Then I even took the challenge to turn off one of the lights to conserve energy.
The light conserving argument had started a few months earlier when my class came running in and told me how we could save the earth by only turning on one light. I of course stared at them and shook my head. "Ummm guys why do you think they put two sets of lights in here?" I answered my own question. "Because you need two lights to see." I turned off one light. "Look you're all fuzzy. I can barely see you!" I exclaimed. Then I flipped back on the light and that was that. However, with their enthusiasm from their speeches, I started class the other day with only one light on and the blinds open. It actually wasn't that different. They came in and someone flipped on the other light. I smiled and said, "Your speeches inspired me, let's try only one light today." "Yeah!" They cried. "We're going to save the polar bears!" And so now, every time someone goes to throw away something, they cry, "Put it in the recycling basket, Save the polar bears." (Seriously, they are really worried about those polar bears.) And so while, I'm not sure that we're exactly saving polar bears, we are being more energy and recycling conscious. Why just the other day I rinsed out my grape juice bottle and threw it in the recycling bin at home. Which may cause people to mistake me for an environmentalist, and maybe that's okay.

What Matters Most

Sometimes we are jarred out of the hectic rush of life, to reflect on what is most important. After Christmas, I found myself doing a lot of reflecting. We spent most of our time with my grandma in the hospital where we looked through old picture albums, shared favorite memories, laughed at treasured stories, listened to the Tennessee Waltz and My Sweet Little Alice Blue Gown, and just stayed with my grandma. It was really hard for me to say goodbye to my grandma, because I knew I would miss her a lot. However, I knew she had lived a good life and would be reunited with her loved ones who have passed on before.
As I reflected on my grandma's life, I realized what I loved most about my grandma didn't deal with prestige, awards, or degrees. In fact, what I loved most about my grandma had nothing to do with stuff. It was her staying up late and gabbing with me, teaching me how to make molasses candy, saving me from our dog, not yelling at me for breaking her door, and listening to my stories. It was the sound of her laugh, the peace from her prayers, and the love she freely gave.
Reflecting on my grandma's life makes me want to be more like her. She was someone who was always there at important moments. Someone who spent more time listening and less time talking. Someone who spent more time with those she loved and less in the attainment of worldly things. My grandma taught me many lessons in her life, the most important were seen in her example. In my rush of life, I plan to slow down a little and be more like her.

Christmas All Year Long

I know it is February, but I believe Christmas should be in your heart all year long. And so, here is Christmas:


We started our holiday with the beauty and warmth of the Mesa Temple Lights.


Then we celebrated a few December birthdays.


Of course, we spent a lot of time looking for elf tracks.


We played in the beautiful snow.


We did a little tubing.


No holiday would be complete without yummy food. This gingerbread man was lightly garnished with a sack of M&M's


We brought back the family Christmas Crunch tradition, and life was good.


Everyone benefited with my niece's desire to get extra credit in French class. The yummy yule log.


My brother of course, put on his chef hat and gave us a good dose of healthy veggies. Add a little honey, lots of greens and limas, a few cashews, and presto!


We all loved our fun gifts. One of grandma's favorites was her Pepsi free.


We had big smiles for the holidays.


And that was our wonderful Christmas!